by Nadia Ramoutar MMM Communications Coordinator Ireland 11.01.2025
Recently, I was talking to someone and he referred to the Democratic Republic of the Congo (DRC) as one of ‘worst places on earth to be a woman.” He is a surgeon who works with women in poverty and I found this reference disturbing. I decided to research this title to see how a country managed to get such a horrendous designation. What I found was even more disturbing.
There is in fact a bit of a battle to get the ultimate title of the very worst place but tragically, a lot of countries in the world are contenders not just DRC. South Sudan, Democratic Republic of the Congo, Central African Republic, Mali and Libya are in the running but without a doubt Afghanistan has recently risen to high ranks as women’s voices have been banned in public spaces and many other legal and social laws.
According to research organizations Georgetown University’s Institute for Women, Peace and Security and Peace Research Institute Oslo state that war is very bad for women. I know that war clearly impacts men who are fighting and are soldiers but it also had a horrific impact on women – which means that it impacts men too. This may all seem obvious but war is often seen as a male oriented impact.
The group also state that ‘women’s rights has improved in some 60 countries, but in deteriorated in many war-torn nations.’ The researchers looked at 167 countries since 2017 when the first Women, Peace and Security Index was compiled, weighing variables such as access to bank accounts, jobs and security. Yemen, Afghanistan, Syria, Pakistan and Iraq were the other countries at the bottom of the ranking.
The new research found deterioration in women’s lives was often linked to security, which worsened in almost 50 countries. I can’t imagine that life in Gaza is anything but hell for women and children now.
Recently we celebrated the Christmas season and thought about Mary and Joseph looking for a safe place for the baby to be born. It is upsetting that so many years later there is no safe place for so many women in the world. My wish for 2025 is that somehow conditions improve for women everywhere not just in places like Sweden, Finland and the Netherlands which are considered the best place to be a woman.
It seems to be a major injustice that where a girl is born determines her level of safety and quality of life as a woman. The work of the MMMs is some of the most remote, war-torn or poor communities in our world continues to try and address such atrocities and without support from our family, friends and donors this would not be possible. So thank you for believing in a more just reality for everyone.
by Sr. Margaret Anne Meyer USA 08.01.2025
May 1966
The boat ride back to Dublin from Liverpool was uneventful but the walk in the rain to Bus Áras and the ride to Drogheda seemed exhausting. I was welcomed home in the refectory by a smiling novice, Sister Christine Jones, who did not mind in the least that I was too early for lunch and gave me a huge piece of buttered toast and a hot cup of tea. Her kindness still warms my heart.
The Motherhouse was in the throes of celebrating Holy Week. I was all excited to be going to Uganda on Easter Monday but had no notion of how I was travelling. Then the news came to me that Mother Mary wanted me to do a retreat before going to the missions. This would start after Easter. I was disappointed but took it all in stride and prayed the best I could. Sometime after the retreat I was told that I would be flying to Uganda on the 23 of May. In the meantime, a sister Doctor was needed to be of service to a children’s pilgrimage to Lourdes and I was the lucky one chosen to go. I was delighted.
We departed from Dublin airport at the end of April. There were Dominican Fathers leading the pilgrimage and one other Doctor and two Irish Sisters of Charity to mind the large group of sick children ranging in age from nine months to 16 years with various life-threatening conditions. I was given an emergency medical bag. Little did I know how quickly it would come in use. I was called to the aunt of one of the children who was suffering from a heart attack. I told the flight attendant, and she told me to go into the cockpit and tell the captain. I felt like a real highjacker and was scared but the woman needed medical treatment right away. In those days it was customary to give an injection of morphine which I did. I asked the pilot to return the plane to Dublin, but he told me the airport in Wales was closer and that he would land there. Thank God the woman was well treated as I heard later and eventually returned to Ireland. The child’s mother continued on our journey to Lourdes.
I loved looking after the children in Lourdes and was able to join in the candlelight processions at night and go behind the Blessed Sacrament when the priest blessed the sick. One morning I tried to get some milk for the children from the Accueil. I said in my best French “Bainne le do thoil” and they just stared at me. Then I remembered I was speaking Irish and asked for “lait pour les enfants.” I laughed but I did get milk for the children.
Soon it was time to leave. Father took us to the grotto before the plane left at 2 AM. He told us that we had a glimmer of what the life of the Blessed Mother was like. A very ordinary life of feeding the children and changing nappies. I felt close to Our Blessed Mother.
We arrived home in Dublin and went to 7Am Mass. I was looking forward to hearing Mass in English because French was spoken all the time. To my surprise Mass was celebrated in Irish but I said every “agus” there was and was glad to participate a little I went to Rosemount with the intention of visiting Sr. Ita Moore’s sister in Dublin. They were traveling to the USA in a few days and asked her to take some gifts I had bought for my parents at Lourdes. She said she would.
I took the bus to Drogheda and arrived sometime after 10 PM. I was notified that my mother had phoned from New York. I thought it was late and returned the call the next morning. My Father had suffered a severe heart attack, and could I go home? I was very distraught but by the time I received permission to go home, my beloved father had died. The joy of seeing him six months previously sustained me in my deep sorrow. I told my mother I would be on the plane the next day. What follows next is another story.
In chatting to Seán, a missionary colleague, the other evening I listened to him quite casually talk of his first mission assignment which like my own was to Tanzania, East Africa.by Nadia Ramoutar MMM Communications Coordinator Ireland 01.01.2025
At the end of December, I asked my wonderful team in the Communications Department to pause and reflect on the year gone by to see what they were most proud of and what brought them joy. Their responses were moving and as Sr Sheila wrote “Where do I begin…”. We are so fortunate to love our work so much and to truly enjoy working together for the astounding MMM Sisters.
There is a wonderful Broadway Musical Song called Seasons of Love. The lyrics say “how can you measure a year?” In minutes? In laughter? But the song recommends that we measure a year in moments of love. Imagine if we can decide in January to deliberately fill our upcoming year with moments of love. We can drop our new years’ resolution of our ill-fated exercise or diet – and decide that in 2025 we will be the most loving we have ever been.
Imagine going to work with people who have committed to being the most loving they can be? Imagine if you family decide this too? Imagine if your doctor, neighbours and people in your community did this for the whole year, how would our world be different?
What would your day look like this January filled with moments of love? Would you be kinder or more compassionate? Would you be more gentle in your thoughts and actions? I hope that you will give this challenge a consideration and decide to make it your focus for the New Year up ahead.
For me, I resolve to dig deep within myself and find a way to be more loving than I currently am. I am not sure how that will feel or what it will look like but I think it is an effort worth making. I invite you to take this challenge too.
In a world filled with people being their most loving selves would we have war? Or Hunger? Or abuse? Would these awful human atrocities just melt away? Would we have no desire to dominate, destroy or harm another?
When we look at the darkness in our world, it is easy to feel fear and to close our hearts just a little bit to protect ourselves in this reality. While I am a realist, I am willing to sprinkle more love on my fear to see if it dissolves it some.
I wish you the very best year possible. Later in the year when I ask my team to reflect again, I hope I can tell them I loved every moment of my year.
by Sr. Jacinta Mahakwe, MMM Nigeria/Brazil 29.12.2024
Living in the semi-slum area of Nordeste de Amaralina, Salvador, in Brazil, was one of my best experiences. My neighbourhood, like most others, has its strengths and weaknesses. Besieged by violence of all kinds, the community kept on living their lives, taking one day at a time. Yes, the weekends were fun, with music parades, dancing and anything exciting. The crowd comprises young and older adults celebrating life despite their challenging environment.
In the neighbourhood, there is law and order. The local community govern themselves. The people obey the rules. Some rules include no stealing of any kind, no domestic violence and no action that will bring in the police. Though some of these occur and there is a lot of drug-related violence, the people apply the rules, and the offenders are punished according to the stipulations.
I call it my safe space because of a lot of things. Everyone knows everyone. It is like a family of people—the community cares for one another. Walking around the community sounds like an extended family visit. The greetings are more interesting. You hear something like “Good morning, my – child, daughter, son, love, sister, brother, father and mother.”. The warmth expressed in this process is heartwarming. I enjoyed reciprocating all the kind gestures and warm greetings, like taking up the smell of the sheep. Imagine the smile on the face of a woman when she is greeted as “Good morning, mother”. The brilliant response of “Good morning, my daughter.” What will your heart feel knowing that we are a family of people? We don’t have to be related by blood.
I loved going to the neighbourhood because it has everything you can imagine; the sense of togetherness and safety is paramount. A bus to the terminal in the neighbourhood is the safest at night and anytime. Because within the community, one has a sense of a third eye keeping watch and protecting. I loved it!
by Sr. Sheila Campbell MMM Ireland 25.12.2024
Every time I think of Christmas I think of snow, presents, Christmas trees and all the usual trimmings. Now why is that, when my true understanding of Christmas is more grounded? It is hard to get away from our commercialized Christmas when it is presented to us incessantly on TV and radio and in social media.
This year I want to concentrate on what I know to be true. God who made the world (and the whole universe) came to this little planet to become part of human history. He came as a little baby into a human family, and, from all accounts, not a very rich one. He came when the family was travelling, homeless, without shelter. I think our modern equivalent would be to be born as a migrant living in a tent under some railway bridge.
Facing this reality provokes a deep sense of gratitude. God did not need to assume the human condition at all, but by drawing close to us, God shows us the depths of his love and unending giving nature. I feel so small and unworthy in comparison.
At the heart of this holy season is the incarnation—the miracle of Emmanuel, “God with us.” In Jesus, divinity stepped into humanity. He came not to dwell in palaces but to walk among the lowly, the broken, and the forgotten. His birth reminds us that God’s love is not distant or abstract; it is personal, intimate, and accessible to all.
As I celebrate with my Sisters here in Drogheda, exchanging gifts, sharing meals, and creating memories, I want to pause to reflect on the ultimate gift: Jesus Christ. The lights that hang represent the Light of the World, who dispels darkness and offers hope. The joy I feel is a glimpse of the joy proclaimed to the shepherds on that first Christmas night: “I bring you good news that will cause great joy for all the people. Today in the town of David a Savior has been born to you; he is the Messiah, the Lord” (Luke 2:10-11).
Yet, Christmas is also a time to ponder what it means to follow Jesus. The humility of his birth challenges me to embrace simplicity and to live with compassion. The generosity of God’s gift calls me to extend kindness and love to others, especially those in need. And the peace proclaimed by the angels invites me to reconciliation and to seek harmony in our world.
As we, as the wider MMM community, celebrate Christmas, may we carry its message beyond the season. Let the hope born in Bethlehem ignite a lasting faith in our hearts. Let the love of Christ inspire us to serve others selflessly. And let the joy of His presence transform our lives, filling us with the assurance that no matter what challenges we face, God is with us.
by an early MMM Sister Nigeria 23.12.2024
The Christmas Eve rush is almost over, and we begin to prepare ourselves to go across to the Mission Chapel to welcome the Divine Infant at Midnight Mass.
The nurses are tired but that does not prevent them from donning all their new Christmas style. Dressmakers and tailors are kept busy around Christmas, not with tweeds and woollens, but with prints and silks and voiles – for Christmas in the tropics comes at one of the hottest times of the year. I remember one Christmas Day seeing the altar candles wilt with the heat and gradually and gracefully lean sideways until they flopped completely and had to be hurriedly rescued one after the other by the altar boys.
So, in the warm tropical night we set out for the mission compound. Great noisy crowds have gathered round the school and are waiting impatiently for the signal to enter. In the bright moonlight we recognise many old friends and patients. All are dressed in their best. The teachers and nurses who are the belles of the place, and consequently leaders of fashion, cause quite a stir of admiration as they saunter along in their slow, dignified, Nigerian way and stand in groups where they can be seen to advantage. The brightness of the full tropical moonlight enables the admiring audience to get a good view.
The lateness of the hour has not kept the children away. They keep running in and out of the crowds, laughing and noisy while the quieter ones creep into the flower beds and, pulling just the heads of the flowers, string them together on long grass and wear them around their heads and wrists. Sleeping babies nod on their mothers’ backs while mothers sit in groups along the veranda and elsewhere.
Suddenly there is a moment’s hush when the school doors are opened and then the excitement begins again. All are wanting to get in quickly to get to their favourite places in the school. Most of them carry their own stools as the school seats could not possibly accommodate such an unusual crowd. The school has been decorated with palm, flags and banners. The Altar has been prepared with extra special care. There is an air of expectancy about everything and everyone for the gossip outside is not what has brought them here. They are hushed now, attentive and expectant. The priest comes out to the altar, the choir boys begin the “Adeste” and Christmas begins…
by Sr. Jo Anne Kelly MMM Ireland 18.12.2024
For weeks we had been hearing about the Christmas Craft Fair which would take place in the auditorium in November. In our own house preparations had been going on all year but ramped up in the last few weeks with crochet and knitted articles being completed, inspirational cards made and candles decorated.
Storm Bert was expected for the weekend but that didn’t seem to interfere with anything. Luckily the worst had passed by Saturday morning but it did start off very wet and windy. Tables were already in place and I watched many cars and vans arrive as local crafters came with their own treasures for sale. There was a buzz of excitement .There was such a variety of crafts and what was so tangible was the wonderful spirit of camaraderie and joy among them all. That uplifting spirit continued throughout the day.
After the official opening I walked around to greet people and to see the displays. There was a raffle with great Christmas hampers as prizes. I bought tickets but didn’t win anything. There was a new book for sale, a recently written children’s book about Mother Mary Martin, our Foundress. I was present when a lady from our parish bought beautifully decorated tall red Christmas candles, one for each of the tall window of our local church. I bought a few small things. I was particularly attracted by some small Bookmarks. They were made of a delicate thin wood, with a bright shiny tassel. Written on the wood in fine print was “This is where you fell asleep.” I bought two for friends of mine! – could have bought one for myself as well! There were also beautiful cribs, figures of reindeers and other reminders of Christmas done in a heavier wood and so much else.
During the morning a young group of musicians and singers came. I found a chair at the back and sat down to enjoy the entertainment. A woman came to me and asked “Are you Sr. Jo Anne?” When I said ‘yes’ she told me, “I’m a cousin of yours” and there were two of them.
I have a very big extended family and, since I was many years out of Ireland on mission, I did not get much chance to know the younger generations. The grandmother of these two women was my father’s sister. Both living in the North, they had seen the notice for the Fair on Facebook and thought it might be a chance to meet me. And what a meeting!
A local small bakery and café were providing refreshments at the Fair, so after listening to the children sing for a while, we three went for coffee and buns and they were delicious buns! We had so much to talk about, so much to catch up on. They know lots of relatives I don’t know but I knew lots of family they only heard of. We could have talked all day. They enjoyed meeting the MMM sisters and all our friends and were so impressed with the welcome they received from everyone around. We will meet again soon. Thanks to the Fair we met at all!
The maker of the lovely buns won one of the big Christmas hampers and everyone was delighted.
It was great to meet many of our staff in a different setting and meet some of their children. There was so much chatting and good humour throughout the day. It was a very special day and good to know that some poor and needy people somewhere in the world will have a better Christmas because of this Craft Fair.
I thank God for all in the communications department who organized the Fair and all who helped to give people such an enjoyable and fruitful day.
At this Christmas time may all know in their own hearts the special love and peace that only God can give.
by Sr. Sheila Campbell MMM Ireland 15.12.2024
Recently I had the opportunity to meet up with two old friends on separate occasions. One was a priest and the other a widow and busy grandmother. It has led me to think again and joyfully give thanks for the value of these long friendships that date back over many decades to when we were all young.
Sometime back I wrote a “fable” about love and today I would like to share it. It is called “Bouquet of Love”.
“We want to know of love”, they said. “We want to taste of its delight”. Up and down the village they went, looking for a lover. Down to the village square, up to the church, over to the market and round by the mill stream. No one could find a lover. All they did was bump into one another, mutter some apology, and rush on around the corner.
After some days of futile searching, someone wailed, “Why can’t we find a lover? Have we no experience of love amongst ourselves to guide us in our search?” Thus it was that she was chosen to share what love she had. “You are young enough, close to the taste and smell of it. Tell us what you know.”
She thought for some moments, then asked for time. “My love lives up in the hills, and down there by the river. Let me go and stay with him awhile. I’ll be back to tell you what I can.” They agreed to this and let her go. They asked her to return by mid-summer, at festival time.
Away she went to meet her love. Indeed, she did not have to search for very long, because there he was, sitting under an old oak tree, right at the edge of the woods. Her heart was lightened at the sight of him, and she found comfort in his presence. And yet she sighed. How very curious! She bent to pick a small blue cornflower and said to him, “How can I ever talk about love? It isn’t in the telling.” “Never mind about that”, he said, “Just come and sit beside me for a time. Or rather, let’s gather wildflowers in the woods – see how the blue of that flower dances in your eyes and makes them sparkle.” She smiled at that, and off they went.
As they wandered through the woods, they talked of this and that, laughed at memories of their own foolishness, shared their hopes, their plans, their little fears, and all the while, they picked the wildflowers. There were so many of them, and of such variety that often she stood uncertain how to choose. At these times, he came up behind her, ruffled her hair, and bending down, gathered up an armful, thrusting them into her arms with very little ceremony.
Soon enough, (too soon, she thought), the time arrived for her to return to the village. There was a great bustle of activity taking up the main square, spilling over into the side streets. The whole village gathers once a year for the festival. “The major social event of Anyland”, or so the posters proclaimed. There was a lot of hammering and banging, dragging of tables and food cooking on open fires. The villagers were all in good form. They were laughing, shouting greetings to their neighbours, and haggling for bargains.
“I have come as I promised”, she said, in a suddenly loud voice. All at once the noise quietened. They looked at her expectantly. “I’ve come as I promised”, she said, “to tell you about love. Look and see.” She held out the bouquet of wildflowers. There was a sudden moment of silence. No one knew quite what to do with the gift. Then a motherly sort rustled forward, clasped the girl to her and said, “Why, child, what a pretty bunch of flowers! Now, stick them in the corner there, and come and join the fun.”
All at once the flowers were taken from her hand, and she felt herself propelled forward into the circle of dancers. She wanted to cry out, to step away, but she was firmly held until the dance was over.
The festival lasted late into the night. It was a great success. Everyone proclaimed it to be so, and so it must have been. Finally, alone, she wandered restless along the deserted streets. A mist of loneliness wrapped itself around her. At dawn, she came upon her flowers. Someone had put them into a vase of sorts and left them by the church door. She sat on the steps and stroked each petal. Memory flared. “These are a gift of love,” she whispered to herself. “Will I leave them in the church as a gift to Love Divine?”
As she was thinking this over, an old woman hobbled by. She looked at the flowers and smiled. “They remind me of when I was a girl and climbed the hills,” she said. “And so they shall again”, the younger girl replied. Jumping up, she placed the bouquet in her arms. As she did this a sudden flash of joy came into the old woman’s face and tears fell silently down her cheeks. Both smiled. Each woman turned homeward. Their steps were light. Gifts had been given and received. Love abounded.
by Sr. Siobhan O’Keefe SHJM England 11.12.2024
Advent is a season of preparation to deepen our awareness of God’s incarnation and
divine presence amongst us. A time when we learn of his great love for each one as he
wishes to set us free from all that blocks his divine life in our world today.
In 2024 I have witnessed this advent incarnation lived out in community prayer where
we have desired to deepen our relationship with the living God through silent
contemplative prayer surrendering all to the living God and entering deeper union with
him so that he may be Lord of all.
Through our prayer, sisters have supported each other through good times and bad….
they have embraced their call to ‘BE with each other’ in the daily realities of life helping
each other to hold onto hope and a promise of a new dawn tomorrow.
In ministry they have empowered the most vulnerable in special needs education,
service in food pantries, loving care of the elderly or the homeless and advocated for
the rights of the marginalised at local or national level. They have served as the voice
of the voiceless when they have placed their X on the ballot papers in local and
national elections calling all candidates to respond compassionately to the changing
needs of all whom they are called to serve, upholding their dignity every step of the
way. Care of the environment and respect for all of God’s creation is central to this way
of being.
Earlier this year I reflected deeply on what Advent must have meant to some people
incarcerated in the Auschwitz concentration camp in Poland. I visited this place of
horror with Sister Gabriella from Vienna, one of our SHJM Austrian Federation communities.
She shared with me some of the challenges faced by the peoples of the Eastern bloc
countries under a communist regime. As we walked through the concentration camp,
a scene of the most horrific brutal suffering, I felt that the air was being sucked out of
my lungs by the oppressive atmosphere and I wondered how the victims coped in this
hell hole; what gave them hope as they experienced the worst of man’s inhumanity to
man.
When we arrived at the cell where Fr. Maxmillian Kolbe had lived, I recalled how
he had sacrificed his life so that the father of a family could be saved from execution
by swapping places with him in the gas chamber. A lighted candle giving glory to God
now serves as a memorial of his most humble generosity. This was placed there by
Pope John Paul 11 in June 1979 when he visited Auschwitz which is in the pope’s home
diocese. Pope John Paul dedicated his first Encyclical “Redemptor Hominis” “to the
cause of man, to the dignity of man, to the threats to him, and finally to his inalienable
rights of man.”
The lighted candle was like a resurrection scene at the foot of the cross
and confirmed my hope once more that no matters what horrors plague our world, the
true light of Advent never dims. As we share our Advent journey, I pray that we may bring a little of that light to
each other and all whom we encounter in our service of love.
May it shine ever more brightly for all people in the Jubilee Year of Hope, 2025, Amen.
