by Sr. Sheila Campbell MMM Ireland 12.03.2024
Language can be funny. At the same time as it can be used to explain things, often our interpretations trip us up. Many years ago, I was traveling in the USA with one of our Irish Sisters. I was doing the driving, and she was looking at the scenery as we sped along the highways. “Well,” she said, “These Americans certainly do look after their bodies. Look at the number of places that sell cosmetics!”. I looked sideways to see what had attracted her attention. It was a commercial unit with the placard “Body Shop”. I had to explain to her that in America, a Body Shop was an auto repair garage.
This story from Nigeria is about yet another kind of auto repair outfit. I hesitate to call it a garage. Sr. Ann was travelling from Abakaliki to Ogoja. In those days it was a three-hour journey on very bad roads. She set out with Sr. Cecily who was going on temporary relief and who decided to do the driving there so that Sr. Ann could do the drive back the next day somewhat rested. Sr. Ann was nervous about the journey as she didn’t like driving much. She told Sr. Cecily this, and her hesitation about returning alone on such a bad road. It was quite a deserted stretch of road, and what if anything happened? “Don’t worry, dear”, said Cecily in the best style of Mother Mary Martin, “All will go well.”
It began badly the next morning when she went out to the car – a flat tyre. “No big problem”, she was told. Lucky Boy would fix it. The spare wheel was put on the car and Ann and Cecily set off to Lucky Boy’s auto repairs. Lucky Boy was found squatting at the side of the road, under the shade of a tree. His workshop consisted of a tractor tyre cut in half. One half held water, and the other half some elementary bits of tools and a bottle of lemonade. The tyre tube was examined. “No good, Sister, you need to buy a new tyre.” How much will it cost? After enquiries Sr. Ann realised it was going to cost four times the usual price. No, that would not do. Was there not any other solution?
Out from the back of his hair, Lucky Boy produces a sewing needle. In his “toolbox” was some black thread. He proceeded to mend the hole, like darning the heel of a sock, back and forward with herring bone stitches. Once the hole was held together, he placed a piece of rubber from an old tyre on top of the whole and put the whole thing into a small machine called a vulcanizer. This process makes the rubber hard. Like a miracle, when the tube was inflated the hole had been repaired.
Now all was set for the journey home to Abakaliki, with the repaired wheel back on the car and the spare back in its place. But Lucky Boy had one more piece of advice. “Sister, take this lemonade. You are nearly fainting! You need it for the journey!”
By Nadia Ramoutar MMM Communications Coordinator Ireland 10.03.2024
In the Western world, the weeks before Mother’s Day we see an abundance of chocolates, pyjamas, mugs, plants and other gifts being promoted in shops reminding people to buy their mother a gift. We have gotten to a place where the concept of Mother’s Day has probably lost its dignity going the way of Valentine’s day with obligated purchases. Mother’s Day is not even globally consistent as some parts of the world unlike Ireland, celebrate Mother’s Day in the second Sunday in May.
We just can’t seem to agree over Motherhood in many ways. As my work with the MMMs brings me in contact with global health issues for women, the horrifying conditions many girls and women face in childbirth is heart breaking. Before working in Communications for the MMM Sisters, I did not know about the thousands of women face daily when they are pregnant and find themselves in a deadly birth situation for them, their child or both. I recall reading my first report on Obstetric fistula and just weeping. It’s not entirely my fault I did not know about this as Obstetric Fistula stopped being an issue here about 100 years ago. It’s been a deadly secret.
We have not had to deal with the death, rupture or wounds caused in childbirth for so long but possibly up to half a million women in Sub-Saharan Africa and Asia are dealing with it now. Along with high rates of maternal or baby death, those who live with Obstetric Fistula are also subjected to tremendous pain, discomfort, social and emotional abuse and severe mental health issues. Torn vaginal walls from birth complications or obstructions lead to uncontrollable leakage of urine, faeces or both. This causes the women to be ostracized, abandoned or abused due to the horrendous smell they cannot control.
It is a cruel twist of fate that a woman’s geography can become her destiny. As a humanitarian, I cannot accept this. The MMMs have been pioneers in working to prevent and repair Obstetric Fistula for decades and today actively work to heal girls and women impacted. There are a lot of grey areas in addressing this issue as even statistics on how many women are suffering with it now do not agree. It is grossly underreported. It is said that the waiting list for repair is so long, it would take over 80 years to catch with the current demand. It could also be easily ended or prevented with basic anti-natal care access for all.
More than just being a medical issues, this is a human rights issue. We are working with Toni Pyke, AMRI and Fr Edward Flynn, Spiritan to see how we can get safe childbirth to be acknowledged as a human right, because currently it is not. We seek to coordinate the efforts on Obstetric Fistula making it “history” for Sub-Saharan Africa and not just for girls and women in the Global West. We are raising awareness so resources can be gathered to rewrite the stories of all women, not just the privileged ones.
International Women’s Day
by Nadia Ramoutar MMM Communications Coordinator Ireland 08.03.2024
Being a woman in our modern world is not easy, but talking about why it is challenging can also be – well, challenging.
In the middle of the night last night my son woke me up vomiting. I am a working single mother and such a sound was like a nightmare. The next blurry hours were a challenge I somehow staggered through but managed to make work. Such a challenge is minor compared to the difficulties other women faced last night. Some were in a warzone or a refugee camp, a domestic violence situation or living on the streets. I am fortunate to have a place to live and running water to wash clothes and electricity to keep my son warm and safe. Like many women I work hard to overcome challenges daily and balance it with the guilt of my complex feelings.
International Women’s Day (IWD) is often misunderstood and used as a marketing ploy with is denigrating. It began by a large group of working class women who were protesting for safer working conditions, better pay and basic rights like voting that at the time they were denied globally. The women back on the first IWD created in 1911 sought to seek equality for women. I wonder if they could see the condition of women in the world would they feel we have come far enough? What more can we do?
The statistics for women in the world now reflects things like 70% of the poor are women when women make up 51% of the population, many of those poor are abandoned with children. At least one in four women will experience sexual violence in her lifetime. In reality there have also been many ways in which women have been empowered and women empower one another, but the trend is still uninspiring.
When I look at the pioneering work of the MMM women I am truly inspired to continue to strive for all mothers with sick children or women facing poverty, violence and hunger. I am motivated far beyond my own conditions to work for the best for all women, those with children and those without, those with jobs and those working at home. My appreciation for all women’s resilience grows as I have compassion for the limitations we all face globally, but still carry on.
For 2024, the IWD the theme is ‘let’s Inspire Inclusion’. The messaging is that ‘when we inspire others to understand and value women’s inclusion, we forge a better world. And when women themselves are inspired to be included, there’s a sense of belonging, relevance and empowerment. The aim of the IWD 2024 #InspireInclusion campaign is to collectively forge a more inclusive world for women.’
My wish for the world is that we honour all the women who went before for pioneering the way for us, and we work together for women in the future that they may be more free and experience more equity than we do today.
by Jo Doyle Ireland 06.03.2024
Woosh.
Like a black meteorite flashing past the window frame. A quick glance up from the dinner table, where three of us sit wondering what we had just seen. The screech was loud and long, but there was nothing there. We were used to noise in our garden. It was a colourful menagerie of sound. Small yellow tits teeming with expectation. Starlings greased up for a day of titillation. Sonorous blackbirds in pursuit of some titbits of bread or feed or nuts. The fashionable cock pheasant strutting his wares, cocky in his magnificent colours. The poor man’s peacock of the elegant countryside followed meekly by his harem of beige women, alert women, feeding on the grains left for the chicken in the grass, ready to run, the most amusing of runs, at the least sign of trouble.
This is our garden. A fashion show of colour and song, of elegance and wit. Our yellow hedge filled with the yellow birds. The single Robin, opening its tiny beak, puffing out its red breast to voice the loudest of songs. Oh, I could watch that Robin all day long, and could listen to the message of hope that it sings.
“Joy. Joy to the world!!!”
Then the unfamiliar noise happened. A black cloud descends and the cacophony of fear and fight and help and rescue of a thousand crows descend. Oh, this fashion fair has become deafening. What, oh what has just happened?
We three stand up from our dinner table to look out our window. The familiar green grass is black with noise and fear. A second, maybe two, is needed to focus on what is happening. The yellow tits are screaming. The Robin runs away as do the beautiful blackbirds.
And then, we see.
And then we understand.
It’s a murder.
A killing.
George Floyd comes into my mind.
The policeman’s knee with full weight pressing down on his back. Uninviting the air from his lungs.
Death and murder.
Such a showing.
Such a noise.
This noise is deafening.
The large hawk. The jet speed attack.
Faster than aerial lightning.
Vroom.
Stunning the crow. The full weight, pinning him down. The steel rigid claw clamping the crow’s beak tight shut.
Suffocation.
Murder murder, murder the crows craw, murder!
The speed, the brutality, the weight of the hawk on the crow’s chest suffocating it.
My thoughts.
Lord, I don’t like crows.
Lord, George Floyd, breathe let me breathe.
The clawed clamp on the beak. This is nature. This is what happens.
Sinead, lover of animals, animal whisperer, has gone unnoticed from our kitchen. We see her slipping her foot between the legs of the hawk and she hops and lifts her leg up slowly once, twice.
The noise is terrific. The crows are screaming free him, help him, release him, and as Hawk loses his grip on the beak the crows ascend in a black cloud, the victim still alive, camouflaged by the others.
The Hawk has gone.
The birds salute in a speedy circle.
The excitement disappears.
And the Robin sings glory Hallelujah once again.
Jo Wardhaugh Doyle is farming in Kildare with her husband Matt. She has worked in Uganda, Ethiopia and Kenya, but more recently has worked with Sr Rita Kelly MMM doing the REAP programme in the Irish Missionary Union (IMU).
by Sr. Siobhan O’Keefe SHMJ Ireland 04.03.2024
My lasting memory of ‘Joe’ was as he stood before the food cupboard of an Evangelisation and Outreach Centre in a major city one Thursday afternoon. As well as basic provisions, he was choosing little treats that he would enjoy over the coming days. It was not to be. On Sunday morning I received a phone call to let me know that this frail gentleman who attended the centre several times a week had been found dead at home on Friday morning. The sense of shock that all who knew ‘Joe’ experienced was profound…frail, elderly people living and dying alone in the U.K in 2023 is a tragedy of our times.
At his crematorium memorial service on Monday of Holy Week the registrar quoted the poem, ‘The Dash’ by Linda Ellis.
This speaks of the time between one’s birth and one’s death…how do we spend these precious years, ‘For it matters not, how much we own, the cars, the house, the cash, what matters is how we live and love, and how we spend our dash.’ In the silence, I reflected on how I spend my life and thought of how Jesus spent his dash….. a life to of total self-gift to others.
Like Jesus, Joe had suffered greatly but it did not thwart his desire to reach out in love to others.
Sadly, not unlike ‘Joe,’ Jesus had died alone. He had been abandoned by some of his closest friends, betrayed by a beloved disciple and left to hang in shame on a wooden cross. His offering was total self-gift so that each one of us could come to fullness of life in Him.
May we live our dash in gratitude to him and spend our lives in loving service of the most vulnerable in our world.
by Sr. Jo Anne Kelly MMM Ireland 02.03.2024
This morning as I enjoyed my breakfast tea I sat looking out on the garden. It was wet and windy. The large pine trees were having a wonderful time in the breeze, swaying and swinging, bowing and turning, abandoning themselves completely to the movements of the dance.
It reminded me of the words of Jesus. “The wind blows wherever it chooses. You hear the sound but you don’t where it comes from or where it is going. And so it is with everyone who is born of the Spirit” Jn. 3:8
And that also somehow reminded me of Ben. He was brought in to the leprosy village by our Mobile team, totally neglected, emaciated, covered in sores, with little sign of life except in his big dark eyes. It was impossible to even guess what his age might be.
Over many months, with care, attention and regular food he improved and we heard his story. As a child he had suffered from something like rickets which left him unable to walk. He could only crawl awkwardly. His people did not understand and were afraid it was some kind of curse. His mother cared for him as best she could until one day she discovered a patch on his arm which she knew was leprosy.
At that time leprosy was a very dreaded disease and the person had to be isolated. Ben was moved to a wooded area outside the village. I don’t know how he was meant to survive there but it was difficult for him to get food or anything else and he just got more and more neglected and hopeless. It was a long distance from where we were but eventually someone informed us about Ben and the team picked him up.
The first time I saw real joy on Ben’s face was the day he was pushed down the ward in a wheelchair, sitting upright and seeing everyone and everything. And an even more joyous day was when he got his own wheelchair and could move himself.
Ben moved to a house in the village. Each house had two rooms, one at each end with a shared verandah between. He spent a lot of time on his verandah. He learnt how to make raffia baskets which could be sold in the local market.
He was then about 30 years old and became quite a leader. Others would gather around his verandah in the evenings. He would organize meetings if the men in his camp needed to get something done. If there was something to be celebrated he organized a party. He would beat the drum and dance with the others, moving from the waist up. Each Sunday he got help to push himself up to the village church for Mass.
I sometimes wondered what Ben’s life would have been like if he had not got leprosy. God has his own plans for all of us.
During this Lent I hope to try and leave myself open to the Holy Spirit.
Pope Francis once said. “To be born again is to let the Holy Spirit enter you. With the freedom of that Spirit you will never know where you will end up”.
by Sr. Sheila Campbell MMM Ireland 29.02.2024
One of the things about being born and brought up in Northern Ireland is that you straddle two cultures – Irish and British. You may even end up knowing a bit about both but not enough about either!
This was brought home to me recently when I learnt about an old Irish tradition about this day, 29th February in a Leap Year. Everyone around me seemed to know about it. Apparently, women can propose marriage to a man and not wait to be asked. I sniff at this tradition, sensing the patriarchy behind it, but I suppose I have to see it in its historical perspective. Legend has it that Saint Bridget once asked Saint Patrick that women be given the opportunity to propose, since men were too slow to do so. Saint Patrick first suggested that women be allowed to propose on one day every seven years. He later settled on every four years thanks to Bridget’s haggling and convincing!
Apparently in Scotland if the man says “no” he has to pay a fine! It can be anything from £1 to a fine silk petticoat!
Anyway, today is Ladies Privilege Day and I have no intention of proposing marriage to anyone today I am musing about how I want to celebrate the day.
do celebrate that the days are getting longer and that there are clear signs that winter has gone. I celebrate the bird song in our garden and yes, even the seagulls, back making nests on the roof of our house so that they can hatch their eggs in peace. (A noisy squabble for me!) .
Today I want to “do my own thing”, with a period of quiet time, a good book, and a chatty teatime with my Sisters! Who knows, I may even take the initiative and call up one of my male friends on this day – after all, it is my privilege!
by Sr. Sheila Campbell MMM Ireland 27.02.2024
On Christmas morning I went into the chapel and sat down expecting to be thinking of the newborn babe and all the joy of Christmas. Instead, my thoughts wandered ahead to Easter. “Stop it, Sheila”, I said to myself. “Live in the present moment.” But the thoughts persisted, and I think it was because of the photo of the daffodil. I took this picture myself on the morning of December 25th, just outside our chapel.
Far too early for daffodils, yes, but here they are, and it made me realise that climate change is affecting all aspects of our lives. What once was a spring flower, and in my mind associated with Easter, now will forever remind me of Christmas!
So, as I sat there with this Christmas/ Easter paradox in my mind, the words of T. S. Eliot came to mind. “I had seen birth and death but had thought they were different.” This comes from a poem from the Christmas season, ironically enough, called “The Journey of the Magi”. So, I wasn’t alone in linking Christmas and Easter. Basically, we are talking about the whole cycle of life – birth, growth, diminishment, death and rebirth.
I am not in any way morbid about this, in fact the opposite. I strongly believe that good will triumph over evil, that after darkness there is light, and that there is a God who is out for our good, not our despair. Yes, when we listen to the stories in the news it is often bleak with wars, natural disasters, famines and floods. But the good news is rarely told. The thousands of acts of kindness, of love for others, of stretching beyond ourselves that happens every day. I have this theory that each one of us knows at least one “saint”. These are people who lives genuinely good lives and care for others. They are not perfect. They don’t need to be. But they are good people and will never hit the headlines! So life is good and we can rejoice in that.
As we prepare for Easter once again, it is good to take the optimistic approach and see the birth with the death as one whole mystery we celebrate each year.
by Sr. Redempta Twomey SSC Ireland 25.02.2024
There is a story told about a holy man who was sitting in by the river, praying. A young man came up to him and said, “I want to find God.” The older man looked at him for a time and asked, “Do you really want to find him?” “Oh, yes, more than anything in the world, I want to find him.” He earnestly answered, sitting down beside him.
The holy man looked into his eyes and then gently putting his hand on the young man’s head, he pushed it under the water. Startled, he struggled desperately to break free but could not. Then, just as it seemed he could hold out no longer, his head was lifted from the water. When he eventually recovered his breath, he turned on the holy man and shouted at him in anger, “Why did you do that? I could have died!”
The holy man looked into his eyes and with great gentleness he answered, “My son, when you want God as much as you wanted air just now., then you will find Him.”
How many of us, I wonder, are like that young man, wanting to find God, yet reluctant to pay the price? Our prayer life must be a wholehearted affair, an absolute commitment, a passionate undertaking. Is it this? Or is it not more often a wishy-washy, lackadaisical happening we indulge in according to mood or felt need?
But if you really want to pray, then you will pray. It is as simple as that. The one essential for prayer is you. God is always here, always present to you, always longing to ‘come and make our abode in you’.
And how do we know if we are really praying, or just indulging in a monologue? Is the test of good prayer good insights, or feeling great, or being able to heal people, or speaking in tongues? Let me tell you another story which gives us the answer to this very important question.
A holy monk in Mount Athos was visited by two of his disciples just two weeks before he died. “Tell us, Father”, said one, “How do we know if our prayer is truly Christian prayer?” “That’s easy,” the holy man replied, “when you love one another.” “But, Father,”, the second disciple came in, “How do we know when our prayer is truly perfect prayer?” “That’s easy,” the holy man answered, “your prayer is truly perfect if you love your enemies”.
First published by MMM in 1986
by Sr. Noeleen Mooney Ireland 23.02.2024
The Healing Charism is a gift I have been given. It comes with responsibility.
It involves:
Coaxing – that those who feel they can’t, because of age or infirmity, may discover that they can, with just a little help. Can I give it?
Compassion – when ears don’t hear, and news and views become distorted and entangled.
Can I untangle, gently?
Patience – with slowing minds, hesitant steps and much repetition of phrases, stories, experiences.
Can I listen with the ear of the heart?
Accompanying – long hours in Emergency Departments or waiting for hospital appointments. Here reassurance is of paramount importance, especially in the face of the unknown or the painful.
Can I sit quietly, yet be fully alert?
Being watchful – for the glasses that go astray; for the book that keeps moving; for the puzzled look that might indicate a wrong floor or room. For a forgetting of where I was heading or even who you are. Can I smile, redirect, reassure and just be there?
Will all this help me in my declining years?
Thankfully that is shrouded in mystery, and the unfolding is a day-by-day gift of life at its most vulnerable yet most precious.
“You want to be Christ’s disciples: then do not count the cost…. Nothing, even death, can separate you from Him in whom you are rooted and founded.” MMM Constitutions
